Be ready for this week’s video! Every Monday by 6pm for the next 11 weeks.
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In a culture of triple shot espressos, rush hour trains, city-speed walking and endless work/class hours- how can I not worry? Living in New York City is not for the faint of heart and I’ve grown accustomed to intimate train rides with strangers at least once a week. I worry about pretty much anything and a strange part of me enjoys the worry. I rarely admit this to myself but feeling worried makes me think that I’m at least working. But in the midst of my “busy” and “stress” I hear God asking me, why do you worry Nina? God points to the lie that stress and worry should be a work day norm or even that I can blame my job for my worry. Matthew 6:25-34 warns us against embracing this culture of worry and anxiety.
1.Worry is rooted in a lack of trust.
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?
God reminds us that the opposite of worrying is trusting that God will provide as he does for the birds of the air. Ultimately worry stems from a lack of trust that we hold.
2.God will give you more than you can ever find yourself
27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?
How many times have I tried to find my own solution to problems and acted in haste? I think back to when I needed an internship for my Communications major. I couldn’t afford to work unpaid and all of my attempts at securing a job always seemed to lead me to illegitimate internships. I finally trusted in God and only interviewed for two places. The first place offered me a better position after meeting me. I ultimately accepted the second offer which was at a company I never thought I was “good” enough for. I still remember college friends telling me I was wasting my time with the “Christian club” and yet during my interview, my work with said Christian club got me the internship. It was completely out of my control and I thank God for how he gives.
3.Instead of worrying about things, seek God, the ultimate provider
31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
The secret to this passage is hidden in verse 33, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” I am making a choice to seek God instead of money or prestige or success. Because every time I seek perfection out of my own strength I come to a striking halt. Instead, I choose chai lattes, quiet time in the mornings, long walks in the sun and trust in God. I lie to myself when I say that I am worried because of my job or graduate classes. Worrying is ultimately my choice and I can also make a decision to stop.
Is love something that we are born knowing how to do? Is love really a choice?
I learned late in life that writing is a lot about learning how to edit, and this is exactly what I’m doing to do in this post. It started as a post about learning how to love, period. But now it is a post about learning how to love oneself because this is something I feel a lot of people fail to do.
I grew up most of my life believing love was something natural, something we were born conditioned to do. And I believed even more strongly that the ability to love was not a choice. I didn’t love my family because I choose to love, I loved them because I just couldn’t feel anything other than love for them. Now that I’ve grown up, somewhat, I’ve come to some sort of conclusion. Loving someone isn’t simply a choice or not a choice. I know this because sometimes I force myself to show love to people, this is me making a choice. But there have been times when I’ve been so hurt that all I’ve wanted to do is hate someone, but still I found myself loving them.
There are times when loving people feels so hard. My mom will say or do something that upsets me and the idea of showing love in that situation seems impossible. There are times when I find it really hard to love myself. It doesn’t make sense but sometimes the most hurtful things are not said by strangers, they are thought by ourselves. We fail to recognize the power and authority held in words, even when these words are said to ourselves. The bible tests to this fact as well.
Proverbs 18:21 – Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
In the above verse we are taught that life and death are in the power of our tongue! This doesn’t just apply to what we say to people we love, this is found in the words that we tell ourselves. The devil is a liar. To anyone who has ever thought that they were meaningless, that their lives were meaningless or that they are alone- do not believe that lie. Your body is the temple of God!
19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
This is how precious we are! And we are never truly alone in this world, never at all. The amazing thing about God is that even if everyone we ever love leaves us, we always have him. This is something we can put our hope and trust in regardless of circumstance.
I mentioned this in passing earlier but love can also not feel like a choice. I find myself unwilling to let go of some friendships because regardless of pain I may have felt, I still love that person. With the same token, sometimes it make feel like we don’t have a choice in how we feel. Although I believe this is somewhat true- we always have a choice. We may not be able to dictate the way we feel, but we can choose the way we act on these feelings. This is even more true in regards to how we respect ourselves. Please, love yourself enough to respect yourself. If you are feeling hurt by someone or something, remove yourself from that situation. And if you are hurting yourself, please learn the value held in your life.
The saddest thing for me to think about is the fact that so many people fail to see how amazing they are. Those people who can be told time and time again that they are beautiful but fail to see it! If you are someone like that, please just take a second look. Give yourself a second chance. Because you are valuable and you are loved. I can guarantee it.
It feels odd to write down, but it’s so true. Everyone feels sad sometimes. I don’t know why I imagine that I am the only person who feels the way I do when I go through rough patches in life. Sometimes that sadness can seem engulfing and the scariest thing in the world to do is to address what I’m feeling. The bible says that there is a time for weeping and a time for rejoicing. But all I want to do is rejoice!
I’m sure that there are lots of people who feel the same way that I do. I don’t want whatever situation I’m going through to burden others. I don’t want other people to know that I’m experiencing pain. And I imagine that everyone really is exactly the way they appear to be on the surface. But nothing could be farther from the truth.
Absolutely everyone we meet in life is facing his or her own battle. And this is all the more reason to love and to love like never before.
My mother was the first person to make me realize this. She told me to be kindest to the people who seemed the meanest. Because when you stopped and took time to get to know them, it’s like peeling an onion! There are layers and layers underneath and everyone has a reason for being the way that they are.
In particular she told me there was a woman who she saw daily who seemed to hate her. It’s so hard to love those who hate us. The bible can vouch for this fact. But she told me that when she learned of the pain this woman experienced in her life, she suddenly understood the bitterness. She understood it instantly. And her love for this woman was not in vain, now they’re actually really great friends!
The perfect biblical model for this kind of compassion is embodied in the life of Jesus. He looked at the defects and the outcasts of the world and somehow he chose to love them. I guess he saw us in a way that we cannot even see ourselves. It’s funny because sometimes it’s not even people who are putting these labels and ideas on us. We do it to ourselves.
If there is anyone like me, who is reading this, please know that you’re not alone. Sometimes I feel so sad tears feel like tiny needles shooting from my eyeballs. Or so angry that my veins will burst! Or even so happy and loved that I imagine my happiness is contagious. We are not our emotions or our temporary feelings. Feelings change. And we are never ever really alone, never at all.
Daniel 3 introduces the reader to the story of Daniel and his three friends. Just in case you don’t know this story or don’t want to read the passage, let me give a brief summary of what it’s about. Daniel and his three friends entered a new land in which they were asked to eat and do things they knew they could not do because of their beliefs. Instead of abandoning their beliefs in the face of obstacles, they choose to hold fast unto their God.
This even came to the point where they were subjected to death in a fiery furnace. But God delivered them.
16 Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego answered and said to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. 17 If this be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and he will deliver us out of your hand, O king.[d] 18 But if not, be it known to you, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up.”
Their dedication was so strong that they were willing to hold unto their faith even when faced with the prospect of death. How many of us hold faith like that? How many of us are able to love God like that?
Do we all even know what exactly we stand for at the end of the day?
Someone once attacked my religion and I sat there in a sea of doubt. But when they attacked my major I spoke up because I knew I was proud of what I was studying in college. I was willing to defend my major, but not my God. I was willing to defend something so small but when my faith was attacked, I collapsed.
Hold strong unto your faith. There is nothing more powerful than God’s love in our lives.
I know that despite every heartache or pain that I go through, that God is always there. He will always be there. His love wraps around me and this assures me that despite trials and tribulation, I am secured. It has already been promised to me.
Forgiveness. Is there anything harder to do in the entire world than to forgive someone you feel wronged by? I sincerely doubt it.
The funny thing is that so many times, people act as though they do something amazing by forgiving others. But in many ways, once you are able to forgive, you are the one released from all bitterness and hate. Forgiveness is not even something that is entirely our own. Jesus came into a corrupt, desolate and hateful world, but still forgave. Giving up his own life to atone for the sins of people who spat and mocked him. As Christians, this is the type of love we strive to emulate in our lives. A type of love that is willing to forgive others because we understand that we too need forgiving.
There have been so many times in my life, when I’ve wanted nothing more than to hold unto hate. But there have been so many more times in my life where people have forgave me, even when there was no reason for them to do so. No other reason than the fact that they are a child of God and when you’re really close to God- you become like him. Silly things don’t matter and you’re able to forgive someone who seems unworthy of forgiveness.
Being on the other side of the coin, I value value forgiveness so much. There comes a point where we need to learn to even forgive ourselves sometimes. And that can be the hardest thing of all to do. Because realizing we are wrong is so painful to admit, especially to ourselves.
More than anything when we realize how wrong we have been, we value the gift of forgiveness so much more.
Discipline. This is one of the hardest things in the world to attain. The above picture is a shout out to one of my closest friends Christine. She’s studying in a very intensive six year program and I know she reads my blog, every post even. Keep going love because at the end of the day you work for what you really want.
Something that I’ve been struggling with especially over these last couple of months has been my lack of discipline. I sincerely have no idea what has been going through my mind lately! Even those of you who read my blog regularly may have noticed it. In many ways I’ve kind of just dropped off of the face of the earth.
I was worried about my spiritual growth. I was worried about what would happen when I started taking classes that demanded more of my time. I’ve learned that at the end of the day, everything comes down to discipline. It’s so easy to fall prey to procrastination and wasted time but I urge you not to do so.
There are 14 weeks in a semester, that’s not a lot of time. If you want to pursue a deeper relationship with God, learn more in your classes and work towards finding your true purpose- you need to put in the time.
Even with something like developing a relationship with God, discipline is the only way to get to know our father. Pursue him, spend time with him. Make it a conscious effort and part of your everyday to make God your priority. I’m going to try to do this and hopefully there will be a visible difference. No, there will be a visible difference in me.
One thing that really pushes my competitive side was a quote that said something along the lines of, “one day while you slept and did nothing, someone else was working and when you meet that person- they will beat you.” In terms of our relationship with God, it’s not a competition. But God deserves our time for no other reason than the fact that he is God. You become like the things you worship. And you worship the things you give priority and time to in your life.
For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
I hope this was interesting to you!