The Secret to Confidence: Know Your Worth

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Low self-esteem is easier to find than dirt on the subway as insecurity devours our culture, stripping away more than we possibly realize.  Once we forget who we are, we settle for less, we walk hunched over.  Confidence is an afterthought when survival is what we grasp for.  The problem begins because we do not know our worth. 

1.  How much are you worth?

I spoke with someone once about this, I believe it was my brother.  He calculated his worth and pointed out that some people are worth more than others.  How then do you determine yours?

I started a new tradition where I collect all my coins and turn it in at my local bank on my birthday and after Christmas. ¬†It’s my surprise birthday/Christmas gift to myself. ¬†Plus, if I ever find myself really strapped for cash (and assuming I haven’t recently done this) I can cash in my change.

My bank allows me to guess how much money I’ve collected. ¬†I thought I didn’t collect much, it didn’t even really fill the jar. ¬†I guessed $30 thinking I was being too optimistic. ¬†I was wrong, I had collected $60 without realizing it. ¬†I dramatically undervalued how much I saved.

I felt God pleading with me recently reminding me that I am worth so much more than I realize.

2. ¬†Don’t use the wrong formula. ¬†

It’s so easy to forget our worth, isn’t it? ¬†There are all those markers that seem to define us. But, who are you beyond your job, your looks, your Facebook profile or your grades?

So many times I fear that I, as well as many people I love, do the same. ¬†We don’t understand our worth. ¬†We are jars of coins trying to be sold to the highest bidder, never taking the time to count what’s actually inside.

I began a new yearly bible plan, click here for a link. ¬†When reading over Genesis I was reminded of something beautiful. ¬†Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”

How remarkable is this?  And really think about this- you are created in the image of the most beautiful God.  How much are you undervaluing yourself?

Thinking back to my conversation with my brother, I may be worth nothing “technically”, but no price can actually be put on your life. ¬†You may try, but no one can ever measure the way you love, no one can ever measure the lengths those who care for you will go. ¬†These barometers forget that because of God, our worth breaks any scale man can make regardless of who you are and what the world thinks of you.

3.  Turn to God

I remember loving myself growing up, maybe a little too much. ¬†I rarely even thought about how I looked like but knew I was special, I knew I had importance. ¬†Then puberty hit and a wave of insecurity came along with it. ¬†I questioned everything I once knew for a fact. ¬†Was I ugly? ¬†Why did others do better than me in school? ¬†Did I really have friends? ¬†I didn’t know it at the time but these were whispers of deceit from the enemy that would tear me down- but not completely.

I wish I could say that at the age of 21 that I am immune to insecurity, that I’ve solved the problem of low self-esteem. ¬†But I too need to stop myself from undervaluing my worth.

The difference now is that I know the truth: that I am worth more than I can possibly comprehend.

Why else would God of the universe send His Son to earth to die for me?¬†Am I worth the life of someone so perfect, so holy….to take the place of my wretchedness, my sin, my deceit, my shame…?

I am worth it. YOU are worth it. You have value much more than you know, so much that He laid his life down for you.¬†“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” John 15:13 NIV

So next time when you’re feeling down about yourself, remember that the Creator made you in His image, His beautiful and perfect image, and that your life is worth the price of His Son.

4. The Challenge 

Today I challenge you to look at yourself and let God speak. Look deeply into your heart and hear what God says.  He crafted you, he is molding you as his perfect creation.  Comment below when you do this about how God is speaking to you.

The secret to confidence is knowing your worth.  

If you see yourself through the eyes of the Father, you can be confident in the knowledge that He created you for a purpose, you are beautiful and loved, and you have worth.

Written by Nina Thomas, Edited by Shannon Mathew

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The awkward moment when you realize you had it all wrong

I grew up in a Christian family, in a Christian household being taught how to be a good Christian. ¬†The thing is the majority of my life was spent looking through this pin hole thinking I was seeing everything, but in reality I only saw this tiny distorted section of the whole picture. ¬†I saw my family and their devotion to God. ¬†I saw my church friends give everything and dedicating their lives to God. ¬†I was baptized with people I’ve known my entire life. ¬†And when I accepted God for the first time my closest friends and family were with me the entire time.

I outreached on campus because I was told to do it. ¬†I spoke about God when someone asked me about God. ¬†I was too busy living my life looking through this tiny hole where everyone I loved would be fine. ¬†And those who didn’t accept God were put to the back of my mind. ¬†I stuffed them there not wanting to imagine eternity without them.

Today I visited a Hindu temple for an anthropology project, I wanted to learn about an aspect of my culture I never experienced. ¬†Growing up as ¬†christian as well as Indian the majority of people I met in passing assumed I was Hindu, unaware that I knew little to nothing about Hinduism. ¬†What happened instead was this tiny hole through which I saw everything was broken open and my heart literally ached. ¬†I left the temple and I sobbed. ¬†Because if everything I was ever taught and believed was true then I would not meet everyone from that temple again one day in heaven. ¬†I just wouldn’t.

I wasn’t used to thinking like that.

My entire life my purpose was to be a good student, to be a supportive friend, to be a decent person.  But as I continued to live my life looking through this tiny hole I was blinded to everything outside of my view.

Yesterday I had the opportunity to learn about an organization called, “The Price of Life” through”One cry”, it was there that I learned the first way I was blind. ¬†Today I learned the second way. ¬†First I was blind to the suffering of people who were sold into prostitution. ¬†I was blind to the suffering of people around me in my life imaging pain was entity of my own. ¬†That only I went through hardships. ¬†I was blinded by my selfishness. ¬†Conceding to myself that everyone else had it figured out and that everyone looked at all times as they appeared on the surface.

No one has it figured it.  But everyone is so keen and so used to hiding that a mirage of perfection is easy to portray.

I realized today that I had it all wrong because yesterday I prayed that God would break my heart for those who didn’t know him. ¬†But as he did this very thing I wanted to beg him to stop. ¬†My idea of Christianity was asking things from God hoping he would not hear me. ¬†That was how things worked looking through this tiny hole. ¬†The hole was narrow and binding and… even inaccurate but this hole was comfortable. ¬†Everything I saw through it fit into what I wanted Christianity to really be, not what it actually is.

I’m writing this post right now because I feel like there most be other people out there like me. ¬†People who have been living their entire lives looking through this tiny hole thinking they have it all figured it. ¬†The thing is we don’t have it figured out, not even a little bit. ¬†God doesn’t call us to live our lives blindly. ¬†He is the light that shines in our darkness, he calls us to be free from all bondage.

We are called to love, to serve and to be uncomfortable.  Today was the day I realized what this actually meant for the very first time.

Ask Nina 40/365

Who’d a thunk formspring would be such a great resource for questions for my blog?

My anonymous formspringer [who I am assuming is the same person from before] posted another question for me to answer, and I actually think it will be a bit of a challenge for me to answer, but I will sincerely try my hardest.

Why are there starving and sick people in this world? If everyone has a specific plan and purpose by God, whats theirs? – answer in blog please ūüôā

[btw I don’t know why the font comes up larger when I copy and paste it, but it does smh.]

It makes me feel horrible when I think about all the people in the world who need something, whether it be tangible or intangible, and I know I can do nothing for them.  Some people need to feel like someone loves them, some people need someone to believe in them, and some people lack the basic substances needed for their survival.

But when I also think about this situation, I also think about the fact that I’m sitting on my butt sipping an arizona iced tea and although I feel bad when I think about these people, I have¬†done¬†absolutely nothing in my life to ¬†help one of them. ¬†That is beyond donating old clothes that I honestly didn’t care about anymore. ¬†If you really care about those people who are starving them GO OUT AND HELP THEM!

It is our duty, not only as Christians, but as humans, to do everything we can to help those in need.   Because God had given us free will, because we have the ability to sin and make choices, imperfection is inevitable.  People WILL be hurt if they have no love in their family, or not enough money for food, or even if someone simply wrongs them.

I truly believe that God has a purpose in our lives and that things are never as it appears.  The people I feel are most blessed are people like me, I was born into my faith and because of that I KNOW the truth.  All I can do is spread this message and hope to help these people in whatever way I can.

I know it seems horrible that some people are¬†starving¬†but I KNOW they have a purpose, maybe a purpose I don’t¬†understand¬†or truly know just yet, or maybe they do not know. ¬† Our lives here are just a second of¬†eternity¬†and even though I don’t always understand his ways I will still praise God [I copied that from a song, I’ll put it at the end].

I hope I was able to somewhat answer your question, and please feel free to ask anymore.  At the end of the day all we can do it try to the very person we can be and maybe, just maybe, we can help someone in need.

See you tomorrow,

Nina

**If you want I can try to find ways that my bloggers can help out people in need, whether it be sending food or trying to go on mission trips.

5/365- Barriers

One thing I’ve always found incredibly¬†unusual¬†was the¬†concept¬†of barriers,that is, ¬†barriers in people and myself that never seem to seize.

First and foremost I consider myself an American Indian [not a NATIVE AMERICAN but someone who’s parents were¬†originally¬†from India, but live in America], next I consider myself a *insert state name*-er. ¬†Then I consider myself a “insert town name”-er, then it goes down to my school, then my group of friends and on and on. ¬†To some extent I expected the concept of my “nationality” to not be so easily defined, but my religion? ¬†I was once naive enough to think I was a Christian and nothing more.

I learned early on that I was not only a Christian, I was a protestant, then a pentecostal.  I hoped at that I would be no longer be divided, but there are so many more divisions in TYPES of Pentecostals, so much more that continue to divide and divide endlessly.

Why?

I may be stupid to ask this but why?  The crusades had made NO SENSE to me because people were killing each other because of their religion, although all of their religions taught love.

I can find so many verses about how we are supposed to be together, but yet we remain divided in such frivolous ways.

Ephesians 4:29-32

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Hebrews 3:12-13

See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. 13 But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness

Today I urge my readers to stop the division and unite.

See you Monday, [I’ll be at a retreat, but I’ll still do posts daily & later post them]

Nina