Something that I’ve learned over the course of the past 24 days, or more so my life, is that you can never make some one love you. And I don’t just mean this romantically. All relationships, be it between family members, friends or romantically require the cooperation of two separate entities. And because of that you can never make someone love you.
Trust me, I’ve tried.
It reminds me of the idea that I can meet someone for the first time and know within seconds that we’ll be best friends. But then I’ll know someone my entire life and never really feel close to them. Yes, I’m the type of person to make annoying small talk. I do it to be polite, even if it’s excruciatingly boring.
Basically, it comes down to this idea that you can really be friends with absolutely anyone. You’d be surprised by how much you can have in common with a stranger. You can talk for hours on end about your favorite television show or a good book, but they need to want to talk to you. And you can love someone to the moon and back, but they need to want to love you.
They need to be excited to see you and take time to show you that you matter. Otherwise, why are you even wasting your time on someone who doesn’t care for you. I have this stupid rule in friendships. I’ll be the first person to initiate a conversation, almost always, but if you don’t respond don’t expect me to try again. It may be harsh but its a rule I’ve followed and a rule that he done me well for a good while now. Because if someone wants to talk to you, they will respond. And if someone cares about your friendship, they shouldn’t ignore you.
I’ve always found the idea of a guy chasing after a girl with little interest in him sickening. This may be the influence of Korean dramas in my life this past summer but it just looks pathetic to me. You’re painted this picture that a guy who comes close to stalking a girl is the model of true love. It’s not. It’s the model of being a stalker and needed a restraining order soon.
And maybe once in a while pining after someone you don’t know works. But how much do you really want someone who never really loved you in the first place? And who made you work for their admiration?
People make time for the people they love in their life. Stop wasting your time on people who don’t make time for you.