When I was looking for pictures to better explain what I want to talk about in this post, I couldn’t believe how lucky I was to stumble on the picture above. Slut. The word burns to even to write into this post. And recently there has been an uproar of something called, “Slut-shaming”. This basically means that women who are considered sluts are, being shamed. Seems pretty intuitive right? Well this depends on your definition of the word slut. Jenna Marbles is infamous for the videos she creates on Youtube. Well one day Ms. Marbles made a video that struck the interest of Laci Green, causing her to make a video of her own.
In short Jenna made a video describing behavior that she believes “sluts” partake in, while Laci made a video arguing that if men do not respect sluts, they don’t respect women. At this point you may be wondering, what exactly is your stance Nina? And in short, I don’t agree with either of these people. Although they both argue their points pretty well, some of what they each say is hard to chew.
Let’s start with Lacy. She argues that a women should be respected because she is a woman, her actions are not a part of this equation. I’m sorry, but I’ve never followed this logic. As far as I’m concerned just because someone is older than me, or just because someone is a particular gender, does not mean they deserve my respect. In general, I believe it’s a pretty good idea to simply respect people or give people the benefit of the doubt. But if their actions do not warrant respect, why should we show respect?
With the same intuition, if someone does not respect themselves, why should I respect them? If you go into a house, steal something and leave, what are you? A thief. And if you dress provocatively and sleep around, what can you expect to be called? A slut. Laci starts to go into this whole idea that the idea of being a virgin is too important to society. Essentially if you are not a Virgin, you are not worthy. I was so surprised because as someone who chose to take a vow of abstinence, I feel like the contrary is also true. Being a virgin in this day and age is really hard. Who’s right? As odd as it may sound, I think we’re both right in some regards. A lot of people look at virgins as though they are mythological creatures, literally. I remember hearing that virgins who are hot are considered unicorns! There was even a post from Reddit about this, and although the language is questionable, the message is good.
What does the bible have to say about all of this?
“All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be enslaved by anything. “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” …
It essentially believes in the sanctity of preserving yourself before marriage. From a religious perspective, having sex before marriage is not acceptable. So if this is true, does this mean women should be called sluts? I know that this is a controversial opinion but, if the shoe fits? I think it’s wrong when a word like slut is thrown around and used to classify an entire class of women. But if someone is acting in a way that warrants being called a slut, how can you be angry if she is called that? I personally would never call a woman a slut, but I don’t know if I can expect this behavior from everyone else around me.
I remember this girl once asked openly, why should Christians be virgins? Is it something necessary today in the age of birth control and contraceptives. The way I think about it, when you have sex with someone just as the bible preaches, you become one with them. Can you imagine how painful it would be to become one with someone only to break up with them a month of two later? When you are married you have made a commitment honorable before God. When you become one, you are supposed to stay as one.
I can agree with Laci about the fact that the word slut shouldn’t be thrown around. I can also agree with Jenna about that fact that certain actions warrant being called a slut. But at the end of the day whether or not you are a virgin is your decision. (in almost all cases) It’s your decision to accept whether or not having your virginity is a good thing or a bad thing. Because there will always be people who call girls sluts for no reason. When that happens you need to be sure of who you are regardless of what other people think. But then again, that’s just my opinion.