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What makes you angry?

Be honest!  And don’t saying nothing because that’d make ME angry [I kid].  Regardless of your answer to this question I know that you’ve probably been angry at SOME point in your life, its almost inevitable.  But just because its “inevitable”, doesn’t really mean that its GOOD…in fact its bad VERY bad!

I never thought much about anger until I looked back on some of my past decisions and  came to reason with the fact that most of my bad decisions were made when I was angry.  Anger has the power to ruin relationships, and even influence you so greatly that you say or do things that you would never do normally.  I always knew that I needed to watch my tongue, that I needed to be more careful of how I treated people, but I never thought of how important it was for me to control my anger.

I’m not the type of person to get really “pissed off” and yell at you [well maybe I do that SOMETIMES, but really only to my brother], I’m more of the type of person to hold anger in her heart without even realizing it.   I hadn’t realized it at the times but I was slowly building up anger for this person who just seemed to REALLY make me angry, it was making me into a bitter person and I never even thought twice about it.  I let my heart slowly hate this person and when i realized it, I honestly didn’t know how to undo the wrong.

The funny thing about anger [if there’s anything funny about it] is that for me I never see when it’s starting to build up.  RIGHT when I was writing this post I almost yelled at my dad for turning off the light on me.  I had such a hard time seeing it in myself, but for a long time I was a very bitter angry person.

I spent so much of my time hurting or being hurt, or getting angry and tearing down bridges.  I was letting anger control almost every aspect of my life and was frankly…unhappy.  The quote above had actually made me realize this fact the most.  I was on Facebook staking…erm I meaning surfing the web, and reading an old friend’s about me, it read:

Live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

HOW TRUE IS THAT?!  I always looked at my anger as a release, I thought I was entitled to let my anger fester and hurt those around me, I thought I would end up like Francine in that episode of Arthur who let her anger bottle up and then had her head explode.  [dont let anger bottle up, simply STOP yourself before you let your anger escalate].  I never thought of all the moments of happiness I lost while I remained angry.

The next time you feel angry ask yourself this, am I really willing to give up a moment of HAPPINESS to be angry at this shmuck?

Proverbs 14:17

A man of quick temper acts foolishly,
and a man of evil devices is hated.

Proverbs 14:29

Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding,
but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.

See you tomorrow,

Nina

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